10 THING WOMEN LIKE TO HEAR

When it comes to relationships, language is everything. Just as soon as the wrong phrase can set your lover off, a perfectly worded sentence can also unlock her heart. And while no two women are exactly the same, there are indeed phrases that just about any gal on earth would love to hear. Thirty of them, in fact—we’ve cobbled them all together right here, directly from top relationship experts. And once you’re safely in her good graces, kick up the heat, and whisper to her any of the 13 sexiest things you can say to a woman.

1

“YOU KNOW WHAT I LOVE ABOUT YOU?” 

Followed by something very detailed. “Women love specifics,” says Rebecca Burton, a licensed marriage and family therapist. “We know you love us, but why? A little extra thought can make sweet nothings into sweet somethings.”

2

“YOU’RE RIGHT.” 

Sometimes, it’s better to own up to the fact that she’s right and you’re not. Humility is a virtue most women can appreciate. It also wouldn’t hurt to know how to say you’re sorry.

3

“YOU LOOK AMAZING.” 

Simple, but effective. “Women want to hear that they are beautiful,” says Melissa Divaris Thompson, a licensed marriage and family therapist in New York City. It might sound shallow, but the reasoning behind it makes sense: “It helps women boost their confidence and feel more loved,” she explains. And we have even more advice on how to impress any woman here.

4

“WE’RE IN THIS TOGETHER.” 

Women like to hear that you’re committed. Of course, this only works if it’s actually true. “Most women want to hear your commitment to them because that creates security,” explains Wyatt Fisher, Psy.D, a licensed clinical psychologist in Colorado. “When you’re in a conflict and things feel insecure, they need to hear reassurance that you’re in it for the long haul and you’re committed to working things out,” he adds. You should also be sure you know how to make that commitment last forever. 

5

“LAST NIGHT WAS INCREDIBLE.” 

“Women like to hear they are good in bed,” says Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW. Just like men, “they want to know that they are providing pleasure to their partner and that their partner is happy with their sex life.” If you need some tips on spicing things up in the bedroom, learn the 5 ways to have your best sex of all time—tonight.

6

“IF YOU WANT TO TALK, I’M HERE.” 

“Remind her that you are there for her emotionally whenever she needs anything,” recommends Sahar Dorani, Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist. “It’s not all about materialistic or financial expressions of love,” she says. You should also check out these secrets of the best relationships.

7

“WHAT’S THE MOST MEANINGFUL EXPERIENCE YOU’VE EVER HAD?” 

Questions can be a great tool for establishing intimacy, especially in the early days of a relationship, but also later on. “Your partner is not an extension of you, but an entirely different individual,” notes Anjhula Singh Bais, Ph.D., an international psychologist and author. “There will always be stones unturned, and it’s up to you to find out those things ‘I never knew about you after all these years,’” she explains. “This pulls you closer and often you’ll be surprised at the person sitting across from you, in a pleasant way.” Also, While you’re at it, learn more things women love to hear on a first date.